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Are you like me and absolutely LOVE children! I love my kids soooooooo much and would gladly have more if I could; however, getting PUPPPS on my last pregnancy and potty training have made me say NO WAY to more children.
Lets face it, potty training is not for the weak. None of us have time to set aside and spend a week following your toddler around and taking them to the potty every 10-15 mins. This is ESPECIALLY more difficult if you have more than 1 child!
This is where I fall into play. I have 3 children. 6, 4, and 2 years old. My 6 year old is in first grade and my 4 and 2 year old are home with me. I have been wanting to train since the summer, but was having a difficult time finding the time WHEN to do it.
My husband works full time and I am a full time mom driving back from school, grocery stores, and extra curricular activity. It seemed IMPOSSIBLE to get this 26 month old of mine trained until I saw the opportunity. TRACK OUT!
You see, my oldest son goes to year round school. This means he goes to school for 9 weeks and then is off for 3 weeks. It’s an amazing schedule. His first track out of the year started in mid September. I had such big plans for the family for track out but then it hit me. I NEED TO POTTY TRAIN OUR YOUNGEST CHILD. I needed to put my big girl pants on and do it!
Now I have pottied trained 3 children and I have found some keys to help make your training go much smoother and quicker! I know there are many books and blogs out there that you can read and buy, but I’m going to lay it out for you.
I have trained both boys and girls so I know exactly what to expect for both type of children. It’s also important to note here that I’ve always started potty training between 22-24 months of age with 24 months being ideal. Any younger than this, you will be pottied trained and not your child. You want to have a level of communication with your child so that they can tell you when they need to go potty vs you running back and forth to the potty every few minutes.
So lets dive in and talk about the 5 simple steps you need to do in order to have your child potty trained.
talk to your child about potty training…
A few days before you begin to potty train, start to talk to you child about potty training. Start asking your child where does tee tee and poo poo go? If your kid is smart they may say, “in the potty!” Or if they are like my stubborn two year old they may say, “In my diaper!”
If they give diaper as an answer quickly correct them and say, “EWWW gross, tee tee and poo poo go in the potty!”
Do this with every diaper change leading up to the big potty training day!
During each diaper change also make faces and say “eww yucky” for both tee tee and poo poo. Your child needs to learn that big kids do not wet or poo in their underwear/diapers.
You will soon be surprised that when you ask your child where does poo/pee go that they will say, “In the potty!”
Adjust your schedule to potty training
This goes without say but you need to make time to potty train. You must be consistent and can’t one day have your child trying to use the potty and then the next day have your child back in diapers. This will make your child confused and less likely go agree to potty train for you.
I know there are a lot of moms that don’t have the freedom to stay home full time with your child so this may be difficult for you! I get it, I understand.
For the working mom, what you could do is schedule your potty training around a holiday. Maybe take an extended weekend off or simply take 3 to 5 days off to train your child.
It will honestly take you a good 3 days before your child realizes, “Hey this is my life now, I guess I don’t want wet underwear so I better go potty.”
If you’re a stay at home mom, make sure you schedule potty training around a time where your life is not too hectic or busy. For me, it was during track out when I knew I would be able to stay home and not do a lot of driving back and forth. Believe me, I started going crazy so if you feel this, IT IS NORMAL!!
Again, consistency is key, so having time off is so important. You will need this time to be with your child constantly for the first few days.
throw the diapers “away”
Here we are, POTTY TRAINING DAY! It’s the day we have hoped for and dreaded all at the same time.
Now as soon as your child wakes up. Make sure you give them lots of hugs and kisses and give them a couple of minutes to really come to and make sure they are fully awake.
Next, tell your child that today is the day they become a big boy/girl. Tell them that they will no longer wear diapers that they will now have to wear underwear and that it is their job to keep it dry.
Take them to where you keep your diapers and say, “Ok, it’s time to throw away our diapers.” Physically hand them to your child and let them help you throw them away.
Now I know you don’t want to throw your diapers away but believe me this is so important for your child to see you do. If they see and help you do this, they will know, “Hey there are no more diapers in the house.” Sometimes they will even ask you for their diaper back and if they do say, “Where did we put the diapers?” And they will know they threw them away.
Just as a side note, I actually had my son empty his diapers into an empty garbage bag and then set them outside. Once he was asleep, I brought them back inside and hid. Ain’t nobody got time throwing unused diapers away.
This is so hard! We all will have the desire to slap that diaper back on but DO NOT DO THIS!! Be brave and tough it out!! Don’t even put that diaper back on them during nap time or bed time. Believe me, if you don’t do this, your child will have less accidents at the end.
Also, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, don’t use PULL UPS! Pull ups are just diapers! Your kid will know that and they will know they won’t get wet at night if they have an accident.
I am proud to say that all 3 of my children have never used pull-ups and have rarely had a night time accident and has NEVER had a nap time accident during potty training. Coincidence, I think not! So throw those diapers away and don’t look back!
have plenty of juice, water, and snacks on hand
Why do I want to pump my child full of juice and water??? Because we WANT them to feel full and have to pee! With your child eating and drinking take them every 15-20 mins to the potty and try to get them to go. Coax them by saying , “Can you make the potty wet?” If they succeed give them a reward. For me, it was always chocolate chips or popcicles but do what your child loves. Make it something they never get so they will WANT to go to the potty.
If you have a stubborn child like me and they won’t go, just simply pull their pants back up and wait for that accident. Remind your child that they need to keep their underwear dry and not wet. Ask them every few minutes if they are wet or dry and do keep trying to take them to the potty, but if they refuse to go know that an accident WILL happen.
It’s important to note that you SHOULD NOT SCOLD your child for an accident. Accidents are a part of learning. The more accidents your child has will teach them, “Hey, I don’t like this wet feeling. Maybe I should tell Mom I need to go potty.”
have a support partner
This is so important! Before you start potty training. Find someone that can be there for you to support you, listen to you, and hear your struggles. For me, that person was my husband. Without him my children would not be trained.
Each time I felt like giving up, I would call or text him and voice my frustrations. He would hear me out and then encourage me that I can do this, that I have done this!
Without him, I believe I would have slapped a diaper back on my child and waited until they were 4 to potty train.
Potty training is HARD, I get it! It’s not all roses and yellow brick roads. A lot of courses out there will say you can do it tear free and in a matter of days! It can be so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Like I said before, potty training is not for the weak!
Find yourself a support partner that can be there for you. A best friend, your mom, your spouse, or someone who has trained before. Us potty training moms need to stick together and be there for each others support!
now what? Is my child trained?
CONGRATULATIONS!! You are well on your way to having your child trained!
If you stick with these steps, you should see your child begin to pick up going to the potty within 3-4 days. For my youngest, he started telling me around day 4 that he had to go potty.
It’s now been about 2 weeks since we have potty trained and this second week has by far been the easiest. He tells me when he needs to go pee or poop. He is also keeping dry at night as well as going to the potty when we are in public. I call it a success.
I’m so glad that I had my husbands support to potty train our child during track out. No more buying diapers, no more stinky garbage bags, and no more diapers in this house EVER again!
One more thing I wanted to mention. Find the right potty seat that fits your child and that your child likes. When my oldest was potty training, he really liked a potty chair. My daughter also like a potty chair. My youngest, however, did not like the potty chair. He wanted to be on the big potty. I had a potty seat cover that he would use but let me tell you, it made SUCH A MESS.
With little boys, their privates need to be pushed down or else they will pee everywhere. Luckily, I found this potty seat on Amazon and it has completely changed my life. Literally contains all the mess and hardly requires any clean up. (And bonus; it was the most inexpensive seat on there!)
I suggest finding the right potty seat for you, but definitely look for a potty seat that has a cup at the front for your little boy. You will be happy you did!
So have you ever potty trained before? Are you about to start? Do you have any tips for any new moms out there. Please leave me a comment below! And don’t forget to subscribe for more helpful things coming your way!